Monday, October 10, 2011

Termite Tuesday: Making Assumptions

Termite [tur-mahyt], noun
1.any of numerous pale-colored, soft-bodied, chiefly tropical social insects, of the order Isoptera, that feed on wood, some being highly destructive to buildings, furniture, etc.   (from
2. any of numerous ideologies or ways of being that eat away at a relationship or persons moral. (from me)


When a person assumes something about another person a few things will follow: 
         a) the assumption will most likely be wrong
         b) word will get out about it
         c) feelings will be hurt
         d) a fight will occur.

Maybe it’s because I am living on a floor with forty odd other people, but assumptions have been very prevalent in my life recently.  Girls assume what other girls are doing/thinking. Boys assume girls are “easy.”  RAs assume that if they let things slid people will like them better.  People assume partying makes them cool and not partying makes them not cool.  Words fly around, turn into rumors, and come back to slap the original gossiper in the face.

A healthy relationship cannot happen if we assume things about each other and only ask when it’s already too late.  Don’t assume your boyfriend is talking to other girls when he doesn’t answer your call and don’t assume your best friend is talking behind your back when she is texting someone else.  Relationships are built on trust, and trust gets broken when we assume instead of communicate.